Did you know? 

  • 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence during her lifetime 
  • Every 15 seconds, a women is beaten in this country ... ... but, 
  • For nearly 3 million women each year, the abuse ends ... They Die. 
  • NC ranks 4th in the nation in the number of per capita homicides against women
  • Our Help Line answers over 2,000 domestic violence calls each year. 
  • The average battered woman leaves her abuser seven to eight times before permanently leaving the relationship. 


The Warning Signs of Abuse
You may be in an emotionally abusive relationship if your partner:

  • Controls what you do, whom you see, and where you go
  • Calls you names, puts you down, or humiliates you
  • Makes you feel ashamed, isolated, wrong, stupid, scared, worthless, or crazy
  • Acts jealous, accuses you unjustly of cheating, flirting, or having affairs
  • Threatens you or makes you feel afraid
  • Punishes you by withholding affection
  • Constantly criticizes you and your children
  • Blames you for arguments or problems in the relationship
  • Makes non-verbal gestures intended to intimidate youIsolates you from friends or family
  • Makes you feel guilty for spending time with someone else
  • Threatens to take the children from youMonitors your phone calls
  • Continually tracks your whereabouts by cell phone, pager, text messaging or GPS system
  • Causes problems for you at work or at school
  • Continually harasses you at work either by telephone, fax, or e-mail
  • Takes your money, withholds money, makes you ask for money, or makes you account for the money you spend. Spends large sums of money and refuses to tell you why or what the money was spent on
  • Refuses to let you sleep at night
  • Uses your immigration status or personal history against you
  • Tells you that he cannot live without you and threatens suicide if you leave‚Äč

You may be in a physically abusive relationship if your partner:

  • Throws or breaks objects, punches walls, kicks doors in your home during arguments
  • Destroys your personal property or sentimental items
  • Pushes, slaps, bites, kicks or chokes you
  • Uses or threatens to use a weapon against you or your children
  • Drives recklessly with you/and or your children in the car during an argument
  • Threatens to hurt or hurts pets
  • Forces or pressures you to have sex against your will. Prevents you from using birth control or from having safe sex. Makes you do things during sex that make you feel uncomfortable.
  • Traps you in your home or keeps you from leaving
  • Tells you that you will never belong to anyone else or that you will never be allowed to leave the relationship
  • Prevents you from calling the police or seeking medical attention.
  • Withholds your medication